fixer problem

WOD: 3 rounds 14 min CAP
            21 DU
            15 Front Squats (95#)
              9 HSPU

Run: 1 mile

I have this problem...it's a horrible problem. Recently, it has caused me some problems at work. When my life problems overflow into my work or vice verse, I know it's time for some intervention.

I have this driving need to want to "fix" people. It probably stems back to something my parents did or didn't do to me as a child that has created this need to want to help everyone and seem to think that I am just the person to do it. (My parents did a fine job of raising me. I only blame them because that seems to be the trend these days. Nobody wants to be accountable for their actions so they just blame their parents.)

From my own experiences, I know that fixing someone isn't going to work. The person needs to figure out the problem and how to work through it. I can't do your work for you to make you more productive during the work day, I can't feed you the right foods, I can't move your feet to get up, I can't do it! I spend SOOOO much energy trying to help. Part of this weakness comes from my passion about health and wellness. I LOVE to sit and talk to people about that. But, those conversations are cyclical. In a few months, we will be talking about it again. Nothing is changing. Take me "trying to fix" the person out of the equation and it's still the same behavior.

I hope that through my actions, I inspire someone in my lifetime. I don't even have to know who or when. But, I will no longer be the "fixer". You can no longer come to me wanting me to give the solution. I am tired. It's not working. It's not my purpose. I won't tell you what I think you should do. I won't tell others what I think you should be doing, either! BUT, I will still (run, stand, life) behind you, beside you, or maybe even in front of you CHEERING for you.